A wall seems impenetrable; a fence possibly has a gate or not, slats to see through, vines to grow along it. These shadowy structures crop up in families between people related to one another by blood or marriage. They separate as surely as concrete walls and cause conflict and hurt. The invisible fence between women in a family stumps the bravest, and the antagonistic relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is particularly corrosive. In particular, a former DIL and I were like oil and water.
My Teenage Daughter Hates Me — Send Help!
How to Deal When Your Daughter Says She Hates You
Often, I meet a mom who is on the verge of tears describing how her teen hates her. As a nonparent but a therapist for many kids, teens, and families, I can easily understand what this teen is going through. I remember it well. I hated my mom, too, and she was a sobbing mess due to my abrupt withdrawal. All I wanted was independence and for her to get off my back.
Why Does My Daughter-in-Law Hate Me?
As a parent, you raise your children to the best of your abilities, and the things you do have a significant influence on how they behave and act as adults. Even if you try your best to raise your children well, there may be some things that you do that cause your children to feel resentful toward you when they grow up. Having an adult daughter who holds contempt for you is a difficult situation as a parent, but there are many things you can do to deal with the pain and work toward building a better relationship for the future.
You can take it to the bank that this can and will happen, probably on a regular basis. How do I know this? I am the parent of a teenager and a pre-teenager that practice this skill with ease.